This is dedicated to all those who are going through hard and testing times.
Allow me to ask you to read the following with your eyes slowly and feel the message resonate in your heart and soul:
If you’re strong enough to take that blade and draw it across your skin.
If you’re strong enough to take those pills and swallow them when no one’s home.
If you’re strong enough to tie that rope and hang it from the ceiling fan.
If you’re strong enough to jump off that bridge, my friend.
You are strong enough, to live.
These lines are from I Wrote This For You in the post entitled “The Things I Would’ve Said.”
I have been an avid follower of the blog since 2008. It’s where I get inspiration in finding relevance and meaning in some of life’s unexplainable incidents.You may find the same, too.
Now, enough small talks and let’s get straight to the point here:
You feel burdened when you are in a clash with other people. But it’s even worse when who you’re in conflict with is yourself. If you consider yourself as your own enemy, if you don’t like how things are going lately and blame yourself for everything, if all in life now is anger, I hope this post can tame your fire.
Anger Management
When you are devastated, getting yourself hurt will way too often be your liking. Just when you feel nobody cares, you are filled with blips of resentment, nearly erupting like a full-fledged volcano. At this time, you may even explode and turn into the Hulk.
The thing is if you turn yourself to be this seething person over the edge, you spark more negativity into the air. Just like any other emotion, anger comes with physical, biological and physiological effects. When you get angry, your energy hormones increase, and your heart rate and blood pressure shoot up.
Thereβs also the adrenaline surge that prepares you for drastic physical action, and your pain threshold levels also go up, ready to draw blood at the slightest provocation.
Thatβs not a healthy situation to be in, especially if you are inflicted with heart disease or hypertension. An angry outburst can be the proverbial straw on the camelβs back. To make things worse, being angry doesnβt just affect you but also those around you.
Here are five suggestions on how to keep peace:
1. Identify and acknowledge. Recognize your grievances, and admit to yourself that you need to simmer down. Accepting that youβre having βanger issuesβ can help to hugely decrease chances of violence and conflict. If you can’t be as calm, try your best to concentrate on the causes of the anger.
2. Open your mind. Tip: You can use your ears and heart but donβt let the anger control you. Before you act, make yourself listen to others and most importantly, your heart. Ask yourself, will you want to act like this too an hour later?To make sure you wonβt have regrets, take a step back before making judgments. Learn how to trust your inner sense.
3. Relax! Letting yourself cool down before taking any action can change the outcome drastically. Most of the time, people lash out in the spur of a moment and regret their actions later. Maybe in a day or two, the problem at hand wouldnβt even bother you anymore.
4. Give peace a chance. Give God a chance. The Scripture says, βDo not let your heart be troubled,β and βlet your requests be known to God.β Take authority over your anger or fretting attitude, for βit leads only to evildoingβ (Psalm 37:8). Stand, instead, in faith upon the promises of God. Peace is our shield and the Word of God our weapon. Therefore, capture negative, unbelieving thoughts that would magnify problems rather than magnify the Lord. Our Father knows what we have need of before we ask Him (Matthew 6:8). Cast your burdens upon the lord. Trust that He will make a way.
5. Stay faithful. Anger can have an incredible ability in paralyzing your potential. It keeps you away from launching out and motivates you to be skeptical about faith. These negative feelings make you short-sighted, making you focus on the past only and not on the future.
Bad things happen ~ but life goes on.
It is not long before we go are gone…
Yes, life is ugly at times. But believe that God is there in the midst of it, giving us grace and strength to get through it. No matter what our circumstances are, we can trust in Godβs character. We can trust in His good plans for us. We can trust that God is always in control and that He is bigger than our circumstances.
Faith in Godβs goodness is not destroyed by hardships. On the contrary, lifeβs storms create an opportunity to grow deeper into Godβs character. When we do, we will discover, to our glad surprise, that God is good all the time.
About Rochkirstin Santos-Sioco
Health and technology freak. Food and lifestyle blogger with a large appetite for food and travel.
Its like you read my mind! You seem to know a lot about this, like you wrote the book in it or something. I think that you can do with a few pics to drive the message home a bit, but instead of that, this is fantastic blog. A fantastic read. I will definitely be back.
Oh yes, thanks for your suggestion. π
Being calm at any instance is important as being angry clouds our choices and judgement.
Agreed. Calmness facilitates clear insight. I guess your running and sports activities help to clear off what wobbles your mind well.
I am fine with number 3…. just RELAX and find your inner peace.. I don’t need the other suggestions. If you relax, you are sending some awesome vibes in the universe and it will help you think before you speak, thus reducing the bad vibes brought by anger.
Haha that’s true. But in some occasions that’s hard to do ah, especially when you’re pushed to limits and don’t know what else to do.
this is so right!!! God is always with us in every second of our life. π
Know that you’re never alone. Let Him manage your life. Let Him take charge of it properly.
For some reason, My Anger Management Issues just resurfaced again. It could have something to do being a dad to a Very Mischievous daughter of mine but it doesn’t mean she gets a lot of spanking.
Oh being a parent requires patience and mastering your emotions. I don’t know how I’ll do as one in the future. Knowing me, I think I’ll be really a strict disciplinarian.
I have a problem with this as well.. i get angry so easily and hard, the type of person who doesnt have a boundary between my mouth and my mind when I am angry. kaya minsan tuloy nabubuking ako kasi nahuhukay ko na yung mga bagay na tapos na.
thank you, the tips are really helpful, i guess 1 and 2 are the things that I really have to focus on and the others should follow… thanks..
If you’re far off from having a stable peaceful mind, you have to practice anger management twice as hard. Good luck to you, Jenny. π
Laugh, find ways to laugh more. Great post and thanks for sharing.
The manifestations of the emotion of anger are so numerous. On the other hand, the manifestations of laughter are almost endless.
I’ve had a horrible fit during my “crippled days”, to the point that I fell into depression. I felt angry most times too, that I had a hard time containing my emotions. But when I turned to God for help, everything changed. It felt calmer. π By the way, I’m also a big fan of I WROTE THIS FOR YOU. I find inspiration from that blog as well.
Aww didn’t know you had “crippled” days. Well we have our own battles to fight. In a battlefield, screams go unheard. Ours faces stained with pain and our quest unparalleld with the adversary undefined. The same battles are fought, with our fates aeons ago are sealed. We just have to hold on and move on a higher cliff for a different view. Change the visage, drive your heart into believing again in the indifferent stars which shine on the war, if not on you.
Nice suggestions. Lucky me, since peers call me the the clown. I just laugh off when I know anger is setting in my heart. Good thing too, napakahaba ng pasensiya ko. Fior last, I would say, true relationship with the Lord will help you overcome anger.
People around you are happy because you’re there so they are luckier with the positive vibes you bring. π
True peace can only come from believing that God wants us to be happy and anger is one of the most serious obstacles to happiness.
Yes, but how about people who don’t believe in God? I guess that would be extra challenging for them to find peace?
I like the poem, it is true! However, people contemplating on suicide would need more than those to give them a reason for continuing to live. I still believe that support groups are very useful. The family is usually the first support group but friends can do a good job as well. Sometimes, we have to listen closely to our friends to see the pain behind their laughter and smile. Thanks for the anger management tips. I could really use them right now! π
You’re welcome. π And sometimes, I think it would be a lot easier if we don’t treat life as a huge metaphor. Just enjoy – harder said than done, I know.
haha! this post really interests me. i can say that im not good at anger management i think even until now as there are times when i just walk away if i cant take the situation anymore. by walking away i mean, literally going out.hahha. i dont really yell or curse or take revenge or something, but more like, if i get angry, then am angry so you’re marked. i still try to muster that patience though.:) after all life should be sweet.
Wow haha I don’t know if I just can walk away from the people or a group I’m angry at. That must really mean something.