In my latest follow-up through Dadβs personal battle, my sister reported good news yesterday. Weeks before, the doctors advised my father to try putting his left footβs weight on the scale, for us to know how much pressure he can put forward.
Based on the doctorsβ medical findings, the cells and tissues in his legs and feet are growing and rebuilding back to normal. But maybe Dad was afraid in clinging to the prospect that heβd be successful in his first attempt in seeing how heavily he can stand his foot on the ground. So this effort of going to the weighing scale had been delayed to almost a month, with his excuses every time.
Weβre not sure how Mom forced him to but at last he tried to weigh and stand his foot on the scale. It read 60+ lbs. Weβre happy to hear that; heβs regaining his strength and capability to stand and walk again.
Itβs succinct to say, henceforth, that if we hope without expecting, things would stop hurting us and we’ll be smiling like always. We’d believe that every area of trouble gives out a ray of hope; and the one unchangeable certainty is that nothing is certain or unchangeable. When you put faith, hope and love together you can live positively in a negative world. So itβs a good thing to keep our hopes high and expectations low.
I am now reading a book entitled Be Positive: If It’s Not Your Blood Type Your Life Will Change by Rich Wood. The pages and story are relevant to what my dad has been experiencing. Itβs a good read, a recommendable one.
In the first few chapters, Rich talks about how he overcame serious injuries and healed himself by concentrating on the affected body parts caused by his accidents. The book takes readers on a wonderful journey of discovery and self enlightenment, whereby we can reclaim our personal power and potential just by thinking that we really can change the world, starting with ourselves, through and with positivity. Iβll ask my sister later to buy this book for Dad. Maybe you want to get your own copy, too.
Love and light,
Roch β₯
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I think expectation is a much stronger word. It connotes a drive or a goal while hope is more of positive thinking.
Yup, expectation is not denoting any positive or negative notion, while hope is somewhat believing or desiring an outcome already. The latter allows us to think in a bigger scope than what we might normally be accustomed to.
I agree with you! It is sometimes better to hope than to expect so that when there is failure or disappoint, it wouldn’t hurt as much. Great to hear your dad is getting better π Let’s all hope he’d see the day when he can walk again with confidence π
Thank you very much for wishing my dad well. Actually he can now walk even without the use of cane or any support system but slowly. π
Glad to hear your dad is getting better. I think the word “hope” gives people more reasons not to give up. We can’t be 100% sure on everything. Sometimes, we can only reinforce it through positive thinking. π
Yes, positive thinking is what motivates us to achieving a healthier, fitter and more fulfilling life. π
I’m glad that your dad is doing well. Continued support from family members would go a long way to help him get back on track.
It’s true that expectation hurts. So, to hope sounds better. π
Thanks for the concern, Lily! We are supporting him and he is also helping himself so he’s got lots of improvement in two years now.
Good to hear that your dad is on the road to recovery. Expectation deals with human desires while hope is letting god do His will.
That’s a good point, Papa Leng! Thanks. π
Continue supporting your dad because in every expectation, there is hope.
He always tells us to not expect that he can walk as normal like nothing happened. So I guess expectations can be good if they are not too much β the kind where a minimal result is good enough.
I hope that your dad will soon be fully alright. We may not expect that it will come sooner as we want it to be, but patience has become more of a virtue. Cheers!
True. The less we embrace expectations closer, the more we keep our hopes around, and the easier it will be overall for us to navigate lifeβs vicissitudes.
Hmmm, this made me evaluate myself. I’ve been acting cranky lately and it’s because of my high expectations on certain people. I was reflecting on your article and realized that I’ve been stressing so much about petty things. I guess I should learn not to demand my expectations. Or, not expect much at all.
Yeah but you can still have hope. Hope implies a certain amount of perseverance like believing that a positive outcome is possible even when there is some evidence to the contrary.
“Hope for the best, and expect the worst”, so goes the popular quotation. It encourages us to hope while being accepting of the realities of our situation.
Contrasted to despair, hope as an emotion produces a motivation to act and results to faith which can be therapeutic. π
They say there’s always a light at the end of every tunnel. But if you don’t see one, then use your own light to get by. π I’m happy that you’re all together as a family fighting and giving your dad that strength to get this through and that he’s getting a good recovery. May God always guide him and i wish him well.
Thanks, Yamito. I always believe in that saying that there’s always a light at the end of the tunnel but I’ve also heard someone say something incredible: Why not create the light yourself instead of waiting to reach the end? π
There is a saying, Blessed are those who expect nothing and they shall not be disappointed and then theres also, While there’s life there is hope. So yes, keep your hopes high and expectations low. God bless your Dad.
Hello, Maritel. Finally you made it here! Haha. Thanks for dropping by many times and thanks for your insights. π
I’m happy to hear that your dad is recovering quickly. Hope for the best! “Law of Attraction.” π
Thanks, Kim! π Yup, that works!
I hope your dad will be healed in no time..
Now he’s almost healed. He can drive and walk without help (when on a smooth ground). Thank God. π
Your blog reminds me of my Tatay. I’m not expecting my father will recover from his diabetes and high blood pressure but for the sake of his family, hope he will fight to extend more his life and spend quality time with us.
Aww that’s right. Family drives life.
It is hard to believe in your expectation but with hope I think it has more chances. Reading a good book may give us good spirit, encouragement and positivity.
Agree. When I’m down, reading books especially self-help, religious and inspirational ones truly uplift my mood.
this is an enlightening post.I often confuse expectation from hope.
I’m glad this article has clarified the difference for you.
Expectation and hope are two different things. Glad your dad is getting better.
Yup, thanks, Badet. π