This is dedicated to all those who are going through hard and testing times.
Allow me to ask you to read the following with your eyes slowly and feel the message resonate in your heart and soul:
If you’re strong enough to take that blade and draw it across your skin.
If you’re strong enough to take those pills and swallow them when no one’s home.
If you’re strong enough to tie that rope and hang it from the ceiling fan.
If you’re strong enough to jump off that bridge, my friend.
You are strong enough, to live.
These lines are from I Wrote This For You in the post entitled “The Things I Would’ve Said.”
I have been an avid follower of the blog since 2008. It’s where I get inspiration in finding relevance and meaning in some of life’s unexplainable incidents.You may find the same, too.
Now, enough small talks and let’s get straight to the point here:
You feel burdened when you are in a clash with other people. But it’s even worse when who you’re in conflict with is yourself. If you consider yourself as your own enemy, if you don’t like how things are going lately and blame yourself for everything, if all in life now is anger, I hope this post can tame your fire.
When you are devastated, getting yourself hurt will way too often be your liking. Just when you feel nobody cares, you are filled with blips of resentment, nearly erupting like a full-fledged volcano. At this time, you may even explode and turn into the Hulk.
The thing is if you turn yourself to be this seething person over the edge, you spark more negativity into the air. Just like any other emotion, anger comes with physical, biological and physiological effects. When you get angry, your energy hormones increase, and your heart rate and blood pressure shoot up.
There’s also the adrenaline surge that prepares you for drastic physical action, and your pain threshold levels also go up, ready to draw blood at the slightest provocation.
That’s not a healthy situation to be in, especially if you are inflicted with heart disease or hypertension. An angry outburst can be the proverbial straw on the camel’s back. To make things worse, being angry doesn’t just affect you but also those around you.
Here are five suggestions on how to keep peace:
1. Identify and acknowledge. Recognize your grievances, and admit to yourself that you need to simmer down. Accepting that you’re having “anger issues” can help to hugely decrease chances of violence and conflict. If you can’t be as calm, try your best to concentrate on the causes of the anger.
2. Open your mind. Tip: You can use your ears and heart but don’t let the anger control you. Before you act, make yourself listen to others and most importantly, your heart. Ask yourself, will you want to act like this too an hour later?To make sure you won’t have regrets, take a step back before making judgments. Learn how to trust your inner sense.
3. Relax! Letting yourself cool down before taking any action can change the outcome drastically. Most of the time, people lash out in the spur of a moment and regret their actions later. Maybe in a day or two, the problem at hand wouldn’t even bother you anymore.
4. Give peace a chance. Give God a chance. The Scripture says, “Do not let your heart be troubled,” and “let your requests be known to God.” Take authority over your anger or fretting attitude, for “it leads only to evildoing” (Psalm 37:8). Stand, instead, in faith upon the promises of God. Peace is our shield and the Word of God our weapon. Therefore, capture negative, unbelieving thoughts that would magnify problems rather than magnify the Lord. Our Father knows what we have need of before we ask Him (Matthew 6:8). Cast your burdens upon the lord. Trust that He will make a way.
5. Stay faithful. Anger can have an incredible ability in paralyzing your potential. It keeps you away from launching out and motivates you to be skeptical about faith. These negative feelings make you short-sighted, making you focus on the past only and not on the future.
Bad things happen ~ but life goes on.
It is not long before we go are gone…
Yes, life is ugly at times. But believe that God is there in the midst of it, giving us grace and strength to get through it. No matter what our circumstances are, we can trust in God’s character. We can trust in His good plans for us. We can trust that God is always in control and that He is bigger than our circumstances.
Faith in God’s goodness is not destroyed by hardships. On the contrary, life’s storms create an opportunity to grow deeper into God’s character. When we do, we will discover, to our glad surprise, that God is good all the time.