Category: Motherhood

  • Balancing Beauty and Lifestyle: The Essential Role of Professional Childminders for Modern Mothers

    Balancing Beauty and Lifestyle: The Essential Role of Professional Childminders for Modern Mothers

    Childhood is a precious time in a person’s life, laying the foundation for future growth and development. One vital aspect of a child’s early years is the formation of secure attachments. These attachments, which are developed through consistent and nurturing relationships, are crucial for a child’s emotional and psychological well-being.

    In this article, we will explore the significance of secure attachments, the role of professional childminders in fostering them, the long-term impact on a child’s well-being, and strategies for parents to support childminders.

    Why are Secure Attachments in Childhood Important?

    Secure attachments are emotional connections that children form with their caregivers. These attachments are built on trust, consistency, and responsiveness. Research has consistently shown that secure attachments play a vital role in promoting healthy development in children across various domains.

    Exploration

    When children have secure attachments, they experience a sense of safety and trust in their relationships. This allows them to explore their environment with confidence, knowing that their caregiver is there to support and protect them. Secure attachments provide a solid foundation for children to develop their social and emotional skills.

    Self-Esteem

    One of the key roles that attachments play in child development is in the formation of a child’s self-esteem. When children feel secure in their relationships, they develop a positive sense of self-worth and belief in their abilities. This self-esteem serves as a protective factor against the challenges and setbacks they may face in life.

    What are the Roles of Attachments in Child Development?

    Attachments form a secure base from which children can explore their environment. When children feel safe and supported, they are more willing to venture out, learn new skills, and engage with the world around them. This secure base fosters a sense of safety that encourages exploration and learning, which is vital for cognitive, social, and emotional development.

    Emotional Regulation

    Secure attachments help children learn to regulate their emotions effectively. When children experience positive interactions with their caregivers, they develop coping strategies and learn to manage stress, anxiety, and negative emotions. This emotional regulation is crucial for building resilience and forming healthy relationships later in life.

    Social Skill Development

    Through secure attachments, children learn essential social skills such as empathy, communication, and conflict resolution. Interactions with attentive caregivers teach children about social cues, sharing, cooperation, and other interpersonal skills. These learnings are foundational for their ability to build and maintain relationships throughout their lives.

    What is the Psychological Impact of Secure Attachments?

    Secure attachments provide a sense of safety and emotional security, allowing children to feel safe to explore their environment and return to a secure base when needed. A positive attachment fosters a favorable self-image and self-esteem as individuals feel valued and understood. Individuals with secure attachments tend to develop better emotional regulation skills, effectively handling stress and adversities.

    Social Competence

    Secure attachments help in developing positive interpersonal skills by learning trust, empathy, and effective communication through early interactions with caregivers. The secure base enables children to learn effective conflict resolution skills, essential for forming healthy relationships later in life. Individuals with secure attachments often find it easier to form and maintain satisfying relationships and integrate into social groups.

    Cognitive Development

    The sense of security encourages curiosity and exploration, which are fundamental for cognitive development and learning. Securely attached individuals often exhibit better problem-solving abilities as they feel safe to take risks and learn from failures. Research indicates a correlation between secure attachments and better academic performance, possibly due to enhanced cognitive functions and a supportive environment for learning.

    Resilience

    Secure attachments equip individuals with coping skills to face life’s challenges and bounce back from setbacks. The trust and support derived from secure attachments foster adaptability and a positive outlook toward overcoming hurdles.

    Long-term Mental Health

    Secure attachments are associated with a lower risk of developing psychological disorders like anxiety and depression. A history of secure attachments can facilitate therapeutic relationships in the case of mental health treatment, enhancing the effectiveness of therapy. The lasting psychological impact of secure attachments underscores the importance of nurturing such bonds from early childhood, setting a robust foundation for a healthy mind and rewarding relationships.

    What is the Role of Professional Childminders in Fostering Attachments?

    Professional childminders play a crucial role in fostering secure attachments in children. They provide a safe and nurturing environment where children can form meaningful relationships and develop a sense of security. The childminder-child relationship is a vital bond that supports a child’s emotional growth.

    Crucial Bond Between Childminder and Child

    A close, supportive relationship between a child and their childminder can have a profound impact on a child’s emotional well-being. Childminders strive to create a warm and secure environment where children feel valued, heard, and understood. They build trust by being consistently available and responsive to the child’s needs.

    The Skills and Techniques Used by Childminders

    Professional childminders employ various skills and techniques to foster secure attachments. They engage in active listening, providing children with undivided attention and empathy. They also establish predictable routines and create opportunities for one-on-one interactions, allowing children to feel secure and develop trust in their relationship with the childminder.

    If you are seeking professional childminders in the Philippines, look no further than Inna Circle. They expertly connect families with childminder members who build strong bonds with children, enhancing their emotional and social growth. With flexible and on-demand services, even busy parents can ensure their children receive consistent and nurturing care.

    What is the Impact of Secure Attachments on Long-Term Child Wellbeing?

    Secure attachments established in early childhood have far-reaching effects on a child’s overall well-being, extending well into adulthood.

    Emotional Health and Secure Attachments

    Children who form secure attachments are more likely to have positive emotional health outcomes. They develop a strong sense of self and the ability to regulate their emotions effectively, leading to improved mental well-being throughout their lives.

    Social Skills and Relationship Building

    Securely attached children tend to have better social skills as they have learned how to form healthy relationships. These skills serve them well in later life, enabling them to navigate friendships, romantic relationships, and workplaces more effectively.

    Conclusion

    Secure attachments are vital for a child’s emotional and psychological well-being. Professional childminders play a significant role in fostering these attachments by building positive relationships with children and providing nurturing environments. The impact of secure attachments extends into adulthood, influencing emotional health, social skills, and relationship building. Parents can support childminders in their efforts by maintaining open communication and reinforcing attachment-fostering behaviors at home.

    Moving forward, investing in training and education for childminders and implementing policy recommendations can further enhance attachment security in childminding, ensuring the safekeeping of childhood for generations to come.

  • Pregnancy Update | The Final Countdown: 38th Week and Beyond

    Pregnancy Update | The Final Countdown: 38th Week and Beyond

    As I navigate the last leg of my second pregnancy, the excitement and anticipation have reached new heights. Reflecting on my journey, I can’t help but draw comparisons to my first pregnancy, which had us welcoming our little one a bit earlier. Last Saturday during checkup, my OB-GYNE said that I already have a soft cervix and a dilation of 2cm, suggesting a more conventional due date arrival. She also said that labor and birth will likely be faster because it’s the second baby. Whew, that sounded reassuring! 🙂

    Unlike my first pregnancy, where preterm labor took center stage, this time the waiting game feels like an eternity. The eagerness to meet our newest family member is palpable, accompanied by the occasional twinge of anxiety about the impending labor. Yet, I find solace in the fact that I’ve taken every measure to be well-prepared for this moment.

    This week, in an attempt to nudge the process along, I’ve spent a total of eight hours or more walking in the mall. Beyond the physical benefits, these walks serve as a welcome distraction and a strategic effort to encourage dilation. The dedication doesn’t stop there – I’ve extended my walking routine in our home, and I’ve started going up and down the stairs with a determination to hasten the labor process.

    The support and excitement from everyone in the house and my family add an extra layer of joy to these final days. It’s heartening to know that I’m surrounded by a circle of loved ones who are eagerly awaiting the moment we’ve all been preparing for.

    Every time Lance, our five-year-old son, would see me, he would rub my tummy with his two little hands and say “Mommy, your tummy is getting bigger, bigger, bigger!” Yes, I also think it looks like a watermelon! I gained more than a little over 30 pounds already and it’s more difficult to move around with this heaviness. (Side note: I just gained 15-17 pounds in my first pregnancy.)

    Anyway, as I wait for signs of labor, I find comfort that the hospital bag is packed, the baby’s clothes are washed and neatly arranged, and all the baby essentials are meticulously organized. It’s not just a practical demonstration of readiness; it’s a source of calm amid the inevitable uncertainties of childbirth.

    In these last weeks of pregnancy, I stand at the threshold of a life-changing moment, balancing the excitement of meeting my baby with the natural nervousness that comes with labor. The house is abuzz with anticipation, and every little sensation sparks shared hope that the time for our baby’s arrival is drawing near. The countdown continues!

  • Review of Providence Hospital (Quezon Avenue) Maternity Package

    Review of Providence Hospital (Quezon Avenue) Maternity Package

    Deciding on a hospital to delivery our baby wasn’t so difficult for us. We only had two choices: St. Luke’s Medical Center and Providence Hospital (both in Quezon City) as my obstetrician is affiliated with these. After reading the experiences and recommendations of moms in online forums and knowing the rates of maternity packages available, the choice was clear. It was Providence Hospital along Quezon Avenue. In this blog post, I’m sharing my thoughts and our experience with Providence Hospital.

    Review of Providence Hospital (Quezon Avenue) Maternity Package

    We intended to have a maternity tour to know what to expect during our stay. Unfortunately, since our bundle of joy has arrived three weeks earlier than the due date, I had to be admitted to the hospital without getting all the information I thought I needed. Anyway, I’m grateful that everything went well. We’re very pleased with the facilities and services in Providence Hospital. Here’s a more in-depth review.

    Providence Hospital isn’t one of the most popular choices when it comes to delivering a baby in Metro Manila. I’ve read only a few inquiries and information about their maternity package online, but most of them were quite positive and promising. Netizens agree that Providence Hospital is prominent when it comes to delivering high-risk pregnancies. It boasts a multidisciplinary perinatal team on standby around the clock and specially trained nurses in its obstetric wards.

    me, two hours before delivery

    Travel Distance from Home

    Providence Hospital is just about 15-20 minutes of drive away from our home. I didn’t have to worry about traffic when baby is on the way.

    Admission

    Prior going to the hospital, we called Providence Hospital to check if there’s any private room available and learned there was none. All rooms were occupied and the worst case would be me staying in the delivery room until one becomes free. It was like being a chance passenger and we were okay with it.

    Reception Area

    Admission was a bit of a setback since there was only one person in the reception. It was evident that he could not entertain and accommodate incoming patients and attend to calls at the same time. Then I knew why the phone kept ringing and nobody was answering when I was on the other end of the line before.

    Another surprising part of admission was that the hospital requires patients to pay the cost of maternal package upfront before they can continue with any accommodation. Additions (in case of complications) or deductions (PhilHealth discount) in cost will be adjusted/settled upon checkout.

    Billing Department

    There’s no going to the ER first for labor and delivery. So I spent half an hour feeling the contractions and ready to give birth while still having to fill up forms and go through the process of payment in the billing department. The receptionist received the copy of payment confirmation and luckily, one of the small private rooms (for postpartum recovery) was freed. 10-15 minutes later, the attending nurse guided us to the room for check-in. We were given a welcome kit and stayed in the small private room.

    Freebies from the Hospital

    Labor and Delivery

    In case you haven’t read about our birthing story, click here. When we first came into the room, the nurse immediately told me to change into their hospital gown and slippers. Then, she wheeled me to the Labor Room where a resident doctor performed an internal examination (IE) on me to determine my body’s readiness for labor. My cervix was already dilated at 7 centimeters that time. A couple of minutes later, our obstetrician-gynecologist reached the hospital and gave me labor tips to ease my worries.

    Labor Room

    The nurses checked the fetal monitors almost every 5-15 minutes to see the baby’s heartbeat as well as my contractions. Our doctor did a cervical check every 30 minutes. I was very glad that my husband was allowed to me by my side the entire time during labor. And I was even more relieved when he was also allowed to enter the operating room to see all the action. I knew not many hospitals in Metro Manila permit that.

    The ambiance in the delivery room wasn’t at all stressful. Everything went well and under control. The doctors told me when to push, counted to 10 in every push, and kept me informed with the progress. Since the birthing process can be like an athletic endeavor, it’s great to have the nurses, doctors, and my husband as cheerleaders and coaches. Happy songs were played when the baby was out.

    Adequate Nurses

    The staff-to-patient ratio was okay and the nurses did not seem overworked. Rather, they were energized and engaged. The assignments were clearly defined and attention was given to the right patient at the right time.

    There was also sufficient staff handling post-delivery care during odd hours. We rang the bell to call the nurse every other two hours to help us feed the baby and there was always at least one who would come.

    Photography and Videography

    We didn’t hire any professional photographers. My husband used his phone camera and the anesthesiologist also helped us capture the most precious moments during delivery. Taking photos and videos was allowed in the labor room and delivery room.

    Small Private Room

    The room was neat and was spacious enough for us. It was furnished with a single bed (for the patient), air conditioner, mini fridge, and a sofa bed so the dad-to-be can welcome the newborn together. Providence Hospital encourages “room-ins” so healthy babies can stay with their parents for better bonding from birth, with a lactation nurse to visit new moms and nurses available on call. The restroom was just across and a few steps away from the room. I didn’t use a catheter since I was able to walk slowly to the restroom hours after after delivery.

    My first attempt to walk

    Visitors were allowed anytime, so we didn’t feel obligated to pack visitors into every minute. Food for me was delivered on time for breakfast, lunch, snack, and dinner–and amazingly, all the dishes served were yummy unlike the typical “hospital food.” A copy of the daily newspaper was also sent for my reading leisure.

    Lactation Support

    After attending a seminar that discussed about the benefits of breastfeeding and skin-to-skin contact right after delivery, I chose to breastfeed right away. Thankfully, Providence Hospital has an in-house lactation support nurse who massaged my breasts to help lactate. She was a big help indeed.

    Maternity Package Rates

    I gave birth via NSD on October 20, 2018. Normal Spontaneous Delivery Package costs P33,000 without PhilHealth and P28,750 with PhilHealth. Caesarean Section Basic Package costs PhP 44,500 without PhilHealth and P31,850 with PhilHealth.

    The package already includes use of labor room, delivery room, and post-operative care, pre and post-delivery medicines and supplies, newborn care which consists of the newborn screening test, newborn hearing test, vitamin K, BCG, and eye ointment. Professional fees (obstetrician, anesthesiology, and pediatrician) are not included. To avail the maternity package, secure and sign the maternity package form from the OPD reception or at the Admitting Section (lobby area) and present the signed form and admission order on the day of admission.

    Day 2 at the hospital, photo-op before going home :)

    Wrap Up

    When preparing for birth, choosing the right hospital to welcome the young one is important. A maternity hospital where would-be-moms will comfortable should be planned in advance. Overall, our experience in Providence was satisfactory. For more information about their maternity services, you may check out their website or contact them at (02) 558 6999 to inquire about detailed descriptions of the packages.

  • Newborn Photography at Home with The Story Company

    Newborn Photography at Home with The Story Company

    Our little one has turned one month new yesterday. Time flies fast! And it’s exactly for this reason that I take photos of him every day. I want to remember every part of our bundle of joy for years to come. 🙂  I also didn’t think twice about having a newborn photography session with a reputable team of professional photographers. When it comes to positioning the baby, shooting the best angles, and catching those super cute details like toes and fingers, I know these experts can be trusted.

    I looked up online for photography studios offering newborn photography packages in Metro Manila and inquired about their rates and availability. Instead of shooting in a studio, I prefer an “on-location” photoshoot—done in the comfort and convenience of our home. Out of the many, The Story Company sent out the most appealing deal with the best value. Also, I absolutely love how they describe what they do.

    As stated in their website, The Story Company “turns moments into minutes by creating an expressive and heart moving piece that combines your life’s special moments, intimate feelings of love and gratitude, and values, all tied in through a narration by you.” Photos that tell stories are a visual treat and a great way to capture a baby’s sweet moments.

    Lance Wolfe (November 7, 2018)

    In this post, I’m sharing our favorite shots and our wonderful experience in shooting The Newborn Tribute by The Story Company.

    Newborn On-Location Photo and Video Shoot with The Story Company

    Some of our favorites:

    Review of The Story Company and Some Behind-the-Scenes Photos 

    1. Communication

    From our initial contact, The Story Company has been a pleasure to work with. They responded to emails and text messages immediately throughout the whole process. They’re also very informative as to how to prepare for the shoot and what to expect, which is helpful especially for first-time parents like us.

    2. Professionalism

    The team arrived about an hour earlier and began setting up in our bedroom. They did some test shots with natural lighting and engaged with us well. Their professionalism shone through from the setup to the care and connection they shared with our little one. It goes beyond words and it’s something we’re happy about.

    3. Newborn Photography Expertise

    Iza Berenguer, the creative brand manager, is a baby whisperer! She was incredibly in tune with our baby’s mood and has managed to pacify and calm him down when he was crying. She didn’t budge a bit when he pooped (whoops!).

    Overall, the team took proper care and was patient during the shoot, so my husband and I were able to just sit back and relax in the room. It’s obvious that this team is an expert in handling babies and has a natural eye for taking beautiful shots (despite our baby’s fussiness). They know how to comfortably pose the baby, and they also gave enough time in between setups for feedings and cuddles to make sure the baby is 100% happy, safe, and relaxed.

    4. Props

    I sent them my pegs and they also provided a shot list through email. I’m happy I didn’t have to buy the props since The Story Company has all the baskets, fabrics, warm and fuzzy wraps and blankets you’d hope for. With their props, you have one less thing to worry about. 😉

    5. Price for Value

    The on-location newborn photo and video session with The Story Company is definitely a worthwhile investment. The Newborn Portrait Session package comes with 40 digital image files (edited), 1 teaser video (30 seconder), 1 full video (3 minutes), and a keepsake box with 3 pieces 5×7″ photo and matting. Their outputs turned out great, and we received them on time. We’re so thrilled and we’ll cherish them for a lifetime. It’s evident that they paid attention to the cute and tiny details.

    I highly recommend The Story Company to parents looking for a baby photographer in Metro Manila. Visit them on Facebook and Instagram to see some more sample pictures and get an idea of the kind of magic they create. If you have time, drop by at their newly opened store in Level 3 SM Aura Premier. For inquiries about newborn photography packages and rates, contact  share@thestorycompany.com.ph or call 0995 2323282 / (02) 4038067.

  • Our Birth Story: Surviving Preterm Labor, Bed Rest, and Other Pregnancy Challenges

    Our Birth Story: Surviving Preterm Labor, Bed Rest, and Other Pregnancy Challenges

    Here goes the story of Lance coming into this world, and of my husband Louie and me becoming parents. I’m writing this blog post to share how he made his grand entrance into our lives and also to inspire all those women experiencing a preterm labor, winding up stuck in bed, and struggling with a high-risk pregnancy. I hope this piece gives you the strength, courage, and hope to keep moving forward.

    Our Birth Story: Surviving Preterm Labor, Bed Rest, and Other Pregnancy Challenges

    My Roller Coaster Pregnancy Journey

    Going through labor and delivery was seriously one of my biggest fears. Blood, pain, needles, surgery, stitches, and complications are all part of the equation. To feel relieved, I like rehearsing the process of labor and delivery over and over in my mind so I’d be more prepared when the day finally comes.

    I spent hours nightly doing heaps of research to arm myself with as much information as possible regarding labor, various childbirth practices, recommendations of healthcare providers, and personal stories of mothers. After stressing over what-ifs, expectations, and checklists, I realized there was one thing that couldn’t be controlled: our son’s birth.

    As mentioned in my previous post, I felt totally fine during the first two trimesters of pregnancy except for the fact that I suffered from heartburn after every meal. I still drove to work every day and did my job as usual. And then I woke up one day a little past midnight having sharp abdominal pains which I thought were merely caused by indigestion, constipation, or a stomach virus.

    The cramps went steadily as the morning progressed. By phone, our OB said that the cramps (contractions) could be a sign of early labor (premature labor). She instructed us to head immediately to the Labor Room of the hospital so my condition could be further assessed.

    Preterm Labor at 30 Weeks, Confined in the Hospital for 2 Weeks

    We arrived mid-morning at St. Luke’s Medical Center in Quezon City. A resident doctor asked me interview questions (medical history) and checked to see if my cervix was dilated through an internal exam (IE). I also had a transvaginal ultrasound to have a more accurate measurement of the cervical length. The findings? At 30 weeks, I was already 2-3 centimeters dilated and 70% effaced. My heart sank. I quickly panicked since I wasn’t yet ready and I knew the consequences of a preterm delivery. I’ve never been so terrified!

    On the other hand, I was happy to find out that the amniotic fluid was still normal, the baby was already head down (and not anymore in breech) in posterior position, and the fetal height and weight were okay. There could still be a chance to slow down labor and delay a premature birth or an early delivery.

    Upon admission, two doses of steroids, 12 hours apart, were injected to me to speed up the development of the baby’s lungs. Different tocolytic drugs were provided via the IV and orally to help stop labor from progressing. Out of the many, magnesium sulfate gave me the worst headache, blurry vision, and the urge to vomit. I also took antibiotics in case the labor was brought on by infection.

    My belly was strapped with wide stretchy bands, which held against two electronic disks connected to a machine called an electronic fetal monitor. The first disk monitored my contractions, and the other kept track of the baby’s heart rate. The machine recorded the information onto paper, and the resident nurses and doctors would periodically come to review the document and report to my OB.

    Every day felt like torture. No technical gadgets (tablet, laptop, mobile phone), no food, and no guests were allowed inside the labor room. I felt helpless with the desire to talk and share my feelings with my family, eat food I like (instead of hospital food), and know more. Why is this happening to me? What are the causes of preterm labor? What are the risks? What are the treatments available? Can I actually have a healthy baby?

    Also, since I was in the labor room beside other pregnant women in labor (separated only by curtains), I could hear their screams and strains that were all very traumatizing. Some were pretty intense which heightened my worries about labor pain and my fear of childbirth. For sure, I had plenty of sleepless nights that led to mental and physical fatigue and greatly elaborated on increased anxiety.

    Looking at the positive side of the situation, I began to have a clearer view and imagination of what it’s like to go through labor, with about 4-6 women going in and out of the labor room daily. It was like being fully immersed in different pregnancy and labor cases live and in real time (not only learning about them online).

    The right combination and dose of tocolytic agents (nifedipine and terbutaline sulfate) decreased the frequency and intensity of contractions on the 13th day. I just had to stay one more day for observation and was finally released from the hospital the next day. However, I had to remain on absolute bed rest for the rest of my pregnancy.

    Surviving Bed Rest

    A bed rest sounds like a dream, particularly to a busy and tired pregnant woman. But when reality hits, it means being stranded for weeks and weeks while having high risks of a preemie. Following my doctor’s advice, I stayed on bed all day at home with limited movements (except when going to the bathroom) and took on medications on time as prescribed to prevent labor contractions and the advancement of cervical length.

    Being on bed rest for a month is not an easy vacation; it can take a toll on both emotional and mental well-being. Sleepless nights continued since the baby was becoming more active inside the womb. I felt uncomfortable whenever he wriggled around. Sometimes the pain was constant and powerful as if he’s practicing acrobatics. My OB reassured me that the pains associated with kicks, jabs, and baby movements were perfectly normal sensations.

    Meals were also a challenge since I still experienced heartburn and had the pressure of gaining more weight after losing seven pounds during my confinement in the hospital. Eating a lot and taking in more food and calories than my stomach and appetite could manage are my least favorite things to do.

    The first time I went out again was for a quick checkup with the OB. My doctor and I were already thankful that I reached 34 weeks without having a bloody show, my waters breaking, or a premature rupture of membranes. We discussed our birth plan, and the doctor advised me to stop the medications. All we had to do was wait.

    The Waiting Game, Overcoming My Fear of Childbirth

    The few weeks leading to a baby’s due date are usually the most exciting. Days felt longer with less to do, so I kept myself busy preparing my mind for childbirth. My favorite pastime then was reading through even more similar experiences of moms-to-be and stories of moms in online forums and Facebook groups. With this routine, my fear of labor and delivery had somewhat diminished. Instead of worrying about pain and possible complications, I chose to nix negativity and prayed and hoped that everything will be okay.

    Two days before the 37th week, we visited our OB for another checkup. I was screened for Group B streptococcus (GBS), a type of bacterial infection that can be found in a pregnant woman’s vagina or rectum. Although GBS is said to be generally harmless to healthy adults, it may cause stillbirth and serious infections in babies. If found positive, being treated with antibiotics during labor if necessary greatly reduces the baby’s risk of becoming infected. Results would be out five days later.

    Per usual during prenatal visits, our OB checked the fundal height and said the fetal growth was just right. Then, she inspected my cervix through an internal examination to check the cervical dilation. We were surprised when she said my cervix was already 5 centimeters dilated and we would need to deliver our baby on the same day. What?! She asked if I had been feeling the contractions, and I said no—only baby movements. I did not feel any labor pain all this time; I must be so used to having contractions at that point. 😛

    I researched online about how long or how fast it takes pregnant women to progress from 6cm to 10cm. Most answered pretty quickly—baby is usually out within 12 hours. Convinced, we returned home to grab our hospital bags and told our families…it’s game time!

    Painless Normal Delivery Achieved

    When I knew it was actual labor, I became “out-of-my-mind” excited! I couldn’t believe it was really happening on that day and that we would meet our baby in a matter of hours.

    We drove to Providence Hospital in Quezon Avenue for admission. At 7:30pm, I was moved to the labor room, 7 centimeters dilated. I started feeling the contractions becoming stronger and closer together, but they weren’t painful as I was expecting. I did not need to indulge in a gentle massage, soothing music, or a warm or cold compress to relieve the pain. The nurses and doctors made me realize I have a high pain tolerance. My husband was on my side for support, regularly reading the fetal heart rate and contractions monitor.

    After an hour, my OB arrived in the labor room and checked my cervix for dilation. I was 8 centimeters. The anesthesiologist followed suit and administered a standard diluted epinephrine infusion on epidural anesthesia for a vaginal birth in the delivery room. I was surprised the injection did not hurt even a bit, far from what I was mentally and physically prepared for! The procedure took only 5 minutes and I started feeling a mild numb sensation from waist down in 30 minutes.

    At 10pm, our OB came in to examine me again. My cervix was fully dilated at 10 centimeters, and the doctor could already feel the baby’s head. Great, I didn’t have to be induced, have a membrane sweep, put to sleep, or walk to speed up labor. A great support team of nurses helped me practice patterned breathing and pushing techniques for labor. Whenever I felt the contractions, they counted to ten, while I pushed as hard as I could for those ten seconds. I tried three times and the doctor said we were ready. They transferred me to the table in the delivery room. I was ecstatic and felt more than ready.

    Everyone gave a hearty cheer and tons of encouragement. I was silent and my eyes were closed the entire time as I focused solely on my breathing and pushing. After three more pushes, something warm was put on my stomach. The baby was out so fast (in 10 minutes or less)! I thought we were just continuing to practice some more breathing and pushing exercises. I opened my eyes and saw the baby wet and crying. The anesthesiologist took our first family photo. It was such a touching and thrilling moment. 🙂 I couldn’t be happier. Life is good. God is good.

    https://www.instagram.com/p/Bpvoj2jFdqQ/

    https://www.instagram.com/p/BpLfPVElVv5/

    The nurse took Lance to weigh and clean him, while our OB did some stitching on me as I had a third-degree laceration after vaginal delivery. I felt some pressure but there was no pain at all! Our family waited outside the delivery room and welcomed the baby once he was out. We were sent back to our private room after two hours.

    I was able to walk and pee in the next 24 hours. A lactation nurse taught me different positions to hold my baby while breastfeeding, what a proper latch looks like, and also how to express milk in a laid-back style. Every two hours, a resident nurse checked on us to make sure we were doing it right. Our relatives came to visit us in the hospital and showed their support. We went home after two days.

    Recovery: I took pain relievers and antibiotics for a week, and my physical body has recovered remarkably well. I was back at my pre-pregnancy weight and there’s not a stretch mark on my belly. Amazing! Right now, I’m practicing po ge lai (Chinese postpartum recovery).

    https://www.instagram.com/p/BpWx8d2F3QC/

    Wrap Up

    Our baby Lance’s birth story is one I really enjoy telling, partially because I’m still in shock (over 2 weeks later) with how it all happened. I’m often told before that lightening quick deliveries are hardly the norm, especially for first-time moms; in real life, progression of labor is much slower with a whole lot of screaming. Well, I guess I’m one of the lucky first-time moms to have a stress-free, pain-free, worry-free labor and delivery. We were so blessed that it all worked out and that we now have a beautiful and healthy son. 🙂

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    To expecting moms: Pregnancy may be a long, rough road, but this road can end in happiness, in the form of a healthy child. Every birth story has its own beauty, and much of that beauty comes in the strength pregnancy challenges give us as women and as mothers.

  • Po Ge Lai (Chinese Postpartum Recovery): 10 “Rules” to Follow

    Po Ge Lai (Chinese Postpartum Recovery): 10 “Rules” to Follow

    I gave birth to a healthy baby boy last Saturday, October 20, 2018 via NSD (Normal Spontaneous Delivery). For one month, I need to stay in my parents’ house and practice the Chinese traditional method of postpartum recovery, known as “po ge lai” or “ge lai” for short, as strictly “enforced” by my mom. It involves not bathing for 30 days, keeping away from anything cold, doing strenuous tasks, etc. In my mind, I really can’t stand not taking a bath for even two days, but for all it’s worth, I would just have to abide by this “recovery ritual” so my wound would heal faster—but more so, to avoid hearing the nags of my mom if I didn’t otherwise. 😛

    Po ge lai has been followed by all my aunts, grandmothers, and other predecessors for years. Basically, it is believed to help protect the mother’s health and help the body recover from the rigors of childbirth. How? The warmth of the body are taken out of the woman’s body during childbirth. Ge lai brings this warmth or chi (the balance of cold and heat) back.

    Whether you’re interested in considering to practice ge lai, currently pregnant, know someone who’s expecting a baby, or simply curious about ge lai, this post is for you.

    Po Ge Lai (Chinese Postpartum Recovery): 10 “Rules” to Follow

    1. Stay warm and dry. No baths!

    Besides not taking a bath/shower for a month, po ge lai requires covering the entire body and wearing long pants or pajamas and socks all day. This is to prevent chills or “wind” from entering the body so you won’t get easily sick or weakened. Throughout pregnancy, a woman’s bones, joints and muscles expand to accommodate the growing child. In this phase of “looseness,” the mother’s body is more vulnerable to “coldness,” which, when left untreated, will haunt a woman in her golden years in the form of arthritis and rheumatism.

    In my case, I stay inside the room and lay on bed almost the entire day, so there’s no worry about getting perspired or wet. An electric fan is enough to sleep comfortably.

    My only gripe is that my scalp and hair are becoming greasier every day. I’d like to try using a dry shampoo I got from Healthy Options. For now, I tie my hair in a ponytail so it gets out of the way especially while breastfeeding.

    2. Stay home.

    I was put on bed rest from my 30th week of pregnancy because of the risks of pre-term labor. (Story will soon be posted in another blog post.) The only times I got to see the outdoors were during checkups with my OB. So with ge lai, being on “house arrest” is nothing new. Staying indoors for a straight whole month could sound boring, but this can promote healing and soon enough, you’ll get used to it. 😉

    3. Rest as much as you can.

    New mothers should not be involved in any vigorous activities and try not to strain their loosened joints. No carrying of heavy objects, no taking the stairs, and no carrying children. If possible, have someone else do errands and house chores.

    I’m lucky to have my family here at home to do everything for me, including taking care of the baby for most times. My tasks are to eat well, breastfeed the baby, and help myself also heal better. I spend the rest of the day watching TV and YouTube videos, surfing the net, writing/blogging, and reading (minimal movements).

    4. Take herbal teas, medicinal soups, and tonic drinks.

    Just when I thought that I could take anything after giving birth, my mom advised to take only nutritious drinks following the ge lai plan. This is to flush out the dirty blood from the body, help increase breast milk production, keep the body warm, enhance tissue repair, and complete the mother’s recovery overall. In more traditional cases, even drinking ordinary water is considered “cold” and is thus forbidden.

    Fortunately, I have two very supportive mothers. My mother-in-law provides the ingredients to make herbal teas like o-tso tong sim and seng hwa teng. We live in Binondo close to Chinatown so all these are very accessible. My mom is a great cook and knows how to make a lot of Chinese medicinal soups, such as black chicken (native chicken) soup, ginger soup, si but, anything with sesame oil, etc.

    5. Eat prescribed “hot” food (dyet) for ge lai.

    “Hot” food doesn’t mean spicy in general; rather, it refers to anything that can produce heat in the body to restore balance and rebuild blood supply. Popular examples are lamb, beef, duck, ginger, and chocolate (native tablea and dark chocolate) which also help replenish important nutrients like protein, iron, and calcium.

    6. Avoid eating “cold” (tsin) food.

    Cold food examples are fruits like pear, banana, orange, lemon, grapefruit, pomelo, watermelon, and coconut and vegetables likes cucumber, sponge gourd, winter melon, Chinese cabbage, white turnip, eggplant, bamboo shoot, seaweed, mung bean, lotus root.

    7. Sit on boiled guava leaves.

    The recommendation is sitting on boiling guava leaves two times a day. The steam of the guava leaves helps hasten the healing of wounds down under and will make the uterus contract faster.

    8. Wear an abdominal binder or a girdle.

    A binder or a girdle is like a postpartum corset that should be worn 24/7. It feels like a huge hug that tightens the stomach area, decreases bloating, helps with postpartum cramping, and speeds up recovery.

    9. After the sitting month, bathe in water boiled with herbs.

    Taking a bath with regular tap water is a no-no. After waiting for a whole month for a refreshing shower, the end is near. Po ge lai also requires bathing in brewed tea for the first bath and then waiting a couple of days before taking the next baths which should be done every other day (and not daily).

    10. Limit interaction with other people.

    For an even faster recovery, mothers in this “sitting month” are discouraged from having unnecessary human contact (i.e. interacting with visitors). This is to avoid contact with a possible source of infection as new mothers and newborns are immunologically vulnerable.

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  • Our Pregnancy Story: How I Got Pregnant with PCOS (Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome)

    Our Pregnancy Story: How I Got Pregnant with PCOS (Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome)

    We’re beyond excited to announce that we are expecting our first baby! There is so much glory wrapped up in every detail of our story, so I made a blog post. Grab a drink, put your feet up, and enjoy reading. 🙂

    A Bit of Background

    Louie and I got married on March 26, 2017. Adjusting to married life could be an overwhelming time for a lot of newly married couples. But since we already had a strong foundation of eight years as boyfriend and girlfriend, it didn’t take long before we felt comfortable and become well-adjusted into being husband and wife. We spent time mostly watching movies, trying new restaurants, traveling and just enjoying each other’s company.

    Before Pregnancy

    The discussion about having a baby happened months before our wedding. My dream was to have our first one before I turn 30 years old (in 2019). In my mind though, I knew that dreams don’t come true as quickly as we’d like and that the world is not exactly a wish granting factory; we have to take the necessary actions to make them happen.

    For the most part, my biggest worry was my irregular periods. It has always been super irregular, ever since I was in my teens. There were times when I didn’t have it in 2, 3, and even 6 months! Definitely, it deserves attention, especially in this age when I’m ready to get pregnant.

    In July 2017, I visited an obstetrician–gynecologist to figure out what’s going on with my body. Through a transvaginal ultrasound scan (TVS), I was diagnosed with polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS). I dreaded the condition, with the assumption that it would take forever to conceive. The doctor was great, friendly, and proactive in explaining about fertility and PCOS treatments, so I left the appointment feeling less discouraged and more hopeful.

    What are Polycystic Ovaries and What is PCOS?

    PCOS is correlated with type 2 diabetes, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, sleep apnea, depression, and excessive hair growth. How could I have PCOS? was the question that circled around in my head. My blood pressure and blood sugar level were normal, I wasn’t overweight (and in fact, quite the opposite), didn’t have hirsutism, and wasn’t acne-riddled.

    But then, in addition, PCOS is characterized with having high levels of androgens. Per the doctor’s findings, I had an imbalance of sex hormones, with more testosterone than estrogen.

    The gynecologist explained how PCOS and pregnancy are closely linked. Polycystic ovary is when each ovary has tiny cyst-like structures. One of the most important factors for a couple to conceive is the development and release of egg (ovulation) in the female. In a woman with PCOS, either the eggs are not produced at all or they are of poor quality. That’s because the ovaries of women produce an excess of male hormones—a condition not ideal for egg development.

    Typically, intensive treatment involving medications and changes to lifestyle are required for a woman with PCOS to get pregnant. Therefore, for a safe pregnancy, treating PCOS at its root is strongly advised. To help regulate my period and increase fertility by restoring ovulation, my doctor prescribed Duphaston (two times daily for five days). 10 days after stopping the pill, I’d have my period. It worked, every time, for two months! The doctor said I could stop taking Duphaston on the third month to check if my menstrual cycle would be normalized, and thank goodness, it did.

    In addition to taking the prescribed medicine, natural treatments for PCOS which I believe also helped were as follows:

    1. Dietary Supplements as Natural Fertility Boosters

    When the body can’t regulate insulin, it can build up and cause higher levels of male sex hormones or androgens. Adaptogens and some herbal supplements can help with hormone regulation, insulin resistance, and inflammation associated with PCOS. I took Navitas Organics Maca Powder, Nature’s Answer Vitex (Agnus-Castus) Chastetree Berry Vegetarian Capsules, Spirulina, and Iron Complex from Healthy Options with a nod of approval from my doctor.

    • Maca is a nourishing food for the endocrine system, aiding both the pituitary, adrenal, and thyroid glands—all involved in hormonal balance. I took maca in powder form and added it to smoothies.
    • Vitex is a fantastic herb for fertility, helping with a range of issues such as PMS, low progesterone, lack of ovulation, irregular menstrual cycles, lack of a menstrual cycle, acne and so much more. Unlike refined synthetic drugs which force the body to change, Vitex (also known as chasteberry) nourishes and supports the system bringing about long-term balance.
    • Spirulina is one of the highest quality protein, superior to all other plant proteins, which is vital to sustaining pregnancy.
    • Menstruation depletes iron stores. Taking 18mg of iron a day helps make hemoglobin, the oxygen-carrying component of red blood cells.

    2. Stress Reduction

    Stress impacts fertility. A constant state of stress can actually shut down reproductive function, and this is not ideal when trying to get pregnant. When stressed, the body floods with cortisol, which can interfere with the hormones that regulate menstruation.

    Since I work full-time in the office for more than 9 hours every day, drive about three hours back and forth, wake up very early, and even do extracurricular activities during the weekends, life is full of high demand, which puts a lot of stress on the mind and body.

    I prohibited myself to use my laptop to blog or continue work once I reach home from work. I made sure to just relax and spend time watching Netflix series and movies with my husband. I also slept an hour earlier than my usual sleep time.

    3. Exercise

    Whether it be aerobic exercises, weight training, swimming, or dancing, any form of regular exercise can help deal with the issue of PCOS and pregnancy. Since I’m the type who easily gets bored doing the same things, I subscribed to GuavaPass and attended a variety of classes, such as Zumba, Anti-Gravity Yoga, Bikram Yoga, Vinyasa Yoga, Upgraded Forma Core, and Martial Arts Tricking, for three months.

    4. Diet Changes

    Eating the right foods and avoiding certain ingredients can help manage PCOS symptoms. A nourishing diet can help regulate hormones and the menstrual cycle. Dietary improvements include: eliminating processed foods, reducing the consumption of grains, increasing dietary fiber, avoiding processed sugar, balancing blood sugar with multiple small meals, and daily intake of essential fatty acids.

    I don’t eat a lot of sugary food, so to make a big change in my diet, I quit eating rice and limited my fruit intake to 1-2 servings per day. By “serving,” I mean one medium-sized piece. Keeping carbohydrate intake low reduces the amount of insulin the body needs to produce. Having a small amount of carbohydrate in my system all the time must be the best way to stave off sugar and carb cravings.

    5. Ovulation Tracking

    Ovulation tracking and fertility apps help in monitoring the best time to try and conceive during the “fertile window” of the menstrual cycle. I downloaded and installed Flo, a free mobile app available in the Google PlayStore and AppStore. It’s a smart and simple female period tracker which has an accurate ovulation calendar, fertility calculator and PMS symptoms tracker. I used it as a handy period calendar or menstrual cycle diary where I recorded moods, PMS symptoms, and menstruation period. It sends notifications and reminders on predictions for upcoming periods, ovulation days, and fertility.

    Our Pregnancy Story

    Since my period has become regulated, thanks to the meds and some lifestyle changes, I bought 30 pregnancy test strips from Lazada. Why 30?! So I can obsessively pee on them at home whenever I want, and I wouldn’t be worried about wasting ovulation tests in the clinic or in a hospital. The description stated that these strip tests are at a sensitivity of 10miu and work to an accuracy level of 99%. It’s a pretty good purchase at only PhP 361!

    My monthly “regular” period stopped after six months. I panicked but decided to wait it out a few more days, thinking it might come eventually, just later than my new “normal.” It didn’t. Something might have gone wrong. With a strong surge to visit the doctor for a checkup, I scheduled an appointment in that weekend. But before then, Louie told me to use one of the pregnancy test strips to test for pregnancy.

    After seeing the result, we looked at each other in shock—which turned into giggles. The test showed two very solid lines. While I was shaking my head and smiling at the same time in disbelief, he was laughing at me with an “I told you so” expression. 😛 I took another strip for confirmation, and it turned out positive again. I stared at the vibrant lines, with my heart and mind racing.

    Perhaps since I got very cheap pregnancy test strips, the outcome may be inaccurate. Still in doubt, on the next day, I walked to the nearest drugstore from the office during our lunch break and bought a more expensive pregnancy test kit. The pharmacist said that the test would work just as accurate as a urine pregnancy test in a doctor’s office.

    As soon as I reached home, I used the new kit and the result was the same. So yes—OMG, we’re pregnant!

    We visited the ob-gyn in the weekend, as planned, with my family, for the fourth round of validation. We saw our baby’s heartbeat and the doctor confirmed the pregnancy. It was March 24, 2018, Saturday, two days before our wedding anniversary. ❤

    At 6 weeks

    Pregnancy So Far

    As of this writing, I’m on my third trimester and the baby is the size of an acorn squash. I feel fine, except that I experience heartburn after every meal every day. Last month, I had a sonogram and was reassured that the baby’s growth is on track. My baby bump is showing so much faster now, and the flutters of a healthy baby kicking and jabbing are getting much stronger. I gained 15 pounds and my waistline (belly area) jumped from 26″ to 32″. I can’t fit into my pre-pregnancy pants anymore! My priority is our baby and if that weight gain goes with this pregnancy, so be it! 🙂

    [schema type=”review” name=”Our Pregnancy Story: How I Got Pregnant with PCOS (Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome)” author=”Roch Sioco” pubdate=”2018-08-26″ ]